From the article: How to Deal With a Negative Coworker: Negativity Matters
If you’ve ever worked, you’ve probably had negative coworkers. You know the kind. Negative coworkers sap your time and attention with their negative comments about the boss, the workplace, the company, and their work. Their lives are usually a negative mess, too – or they think they are. These coworkers exude negativity and you are forced into coping with their negativity daily. Have a thick skin that keeps negativity from affecting you? Do you have tips for coping with negative coworkers? Absolutely. Won’t you take a moment and share your favorite tips for coping with negative coworkers? Share Tips for Coping
- My coworkers are all over me for information, lunch time I am the outcast. Meetings, none will sit next to me even though there are empty chairs and room. Minute return to office, in my face. No matter what race, they act the same towards me. Meet on street, go in other direction. This is hurtful!
- —Guest anonymous
- Great suggestions but it is difficult to do much if the negative coworkers are supported. Take it day by day, hour by hour and avoid them when you can but stand up to them. Even a little.
- —Guest wildkat
Are they really negative?
- First off, I want to admit, there are plenty of negative people out there that are just that. Negative for the sake of being negative. But I have met many a co-worker that I originally thought was just a negative person, but turns out they were using their complaints about work or life as a way to make a connection with me. Think about it, more than likely there is something you don't like about your job, and if you have a chance to complain about it with someone who feels the same way, it's sort of a bonding experience. My advice would be, if you think this may be the case, to steer them away from complaining and instead try to introduce something else you have in common. Most of the "negative" people I have met are just lonely and looking for a friend at work.
- —Guest Kiterina
Sometimes these folks can do real damage
- We have a woman who sits in her cubicle all day spewing hate and nasty gossip with glee and cackling. People come to her and revel in others misery. She has contributed greatly to many reputations being ruined and people being demoted. For some reason management doesn't see the problem, and they seem to trust her, although her work is of inferior quality and she spends most of her time making personal phone calls and getting into fights on the phone. She's fun to talk to, if she doesn't have it in for you. Well now she has it in for me. I made the mistake of being honest with her about how the constant gossip made me feel, as we shared an office. She called me crazy then told my boss. Guess it's time to look for another job. I can already see people questioning everything that I do, and I'm beginning to feel persecuted. I blame the "corporate culture" more than I blame the person in question for allowing this to continue. It's a very unhealthy atmosphere.
- —Guest Dorkus
Why are they negative?
- Try not to belittle your co worker by branding them negative and making a joke out of what to them might be genuine concerns or miseries. Isolating them or laughing at them with other co workers will only make them more negative and likely depressed and some of their reasons may be genuine, i.e bosses often have favorites and whereas you might be one, they may not be, and might see things in a different light to you. In most cases it won't hurt to listen a bit, maybe even offer a bit of friendly advice. However, if their negative behavior is directed at you (i.e bullying) or trying to influence your opinions unfairly (i.e. just because they are jealous of another co worker who has blatantly done nothing but look wrong that day) then it might be an idea to distance yourself from them a little, or even be honest and disagree. You can disagree without being nasty. If they turn against you because of it you might do well to then turn to management. However, in harmless negativity cases just smile.
- —Guest Anon
It all has got to do with ego
- Unfortunately, these so-called negativity mongers are oblivious to the fact that their pessimistic behavior not only affects a certain individual but also the entire organisation. I think it all has got to do with being naive, jealous, angry, miserable in life and feeding their egoes at the expense of the company. These people should be identified and dealt with once and for all for the sake of the economy and peace in this world.
- —Guest Inocent
- I have a very simple solution: find a job or own your business. Many negative co-workers/bosses are very miserable, are jealous, are depressed, are "vampires", and do not care about others. Backstabbers enjoy making themselves better. It is not worth to be around with them even you do a great job or not. Please avoid all the costs. The great news is that I got a job offer within one week after quitting my job!
- —Guest FedUp
Sometimes you just need to get out
- I know when we are faced with difficult situations and coworkers everyone tells us deal with it that it's a part of life and that we shouldn't allow people to get to us or allow people to get the better of us and make us leave what we like doing but sometimes it's ok to leave. When it comes to a point that you are unhappy where you are and uncomfortable, the best thing to do is get out. It's not worth staying and facing negativity. Because soon it will start to have an impact on your personal life and your health.
- —Guest Shellyann27
You guys have not seen negative yet
- I've been working with a young girl about 23 for about 2 years now and for this short time she has shown me that evil and hatred strongly exists in this world. The worst part of it all is when she comes up to me all smiling and happy like I'm the best thing in the world, hugging me and acting like the perfect coworker. Every chance she gets to stab me in the back she does it. She tells our boss the most outrageous stuff about me. And see if you guys can top this... Eg. I went on a vacation with my husband last year. When I came back I heard she told my boss that I went to do some kind of witch craft in another country. This I found so funny I couldnt even get mad. She complains about the way I dress, the time I get to work, and is always snooping around my stuff. I always have to be so careful. To be honest, at this point, I'm actually scared of her because I know she is capable of anything. Her lies and betrayal and enmity have no limit. I actualy feel that I have to get out now.
- —Guest Shellyann27
Waiting to exhale
- I've beening working at this restaurant for three years as a server and there is this one waiter who is like in his 60s and has been a server forever and says he's the best and he's number 1. Well, last year I won an award for best customer service and ever since then he has been trying his best to get me in trouble. He is listening to my conversations, looking at my schedule, picking, telling the bosses things about me. It's sooo stupid and childish. Everybody there tells me all the mean things he says behind my back, that I'm disgusting and I'm a suck up to the customers. The more I ignore him it's like adding gas to the fire. He ain't satisfied with me ignoring him. At times, I imagine scratching his face off but I chill. What is his damage? When am I just going to exhale like Whitney? Thanks dolls for listening or reading. ta-ta
- —Guest smvs
I'm just negative, can't help it
- I enjoy telling my coworkers about how awful my job is, even though when it wasn't that awful. I like it when people shower me with empathy/sympathy. Maybe I'm sick? hahahaha I like it when people lament about how bad their work is, gives me a sense of ecstasy. If i have a horrid time at work, I like to rattle on forever about how bad my job is, whether or not my colleagues like it or not. Makes me happy to see them frustrated. Yeah think I'm sick
- —Guest Just negative
Toxic Work Environment
- I worked with a toxic coworker for over 5 years. She complained about my the sound and pace of my typing, about my choice of footwear and everything in between. She kept a journal and reported in it, on everything that she considered was a personal affront to her. She threw work on my desk, when she felt I wasn't working hard enough and got angry when I tried to transfer calls to her. I decided to take the high road and ignore it. This only made it worse. When her friend was fired and I was promoted to his position, this caused her to be even more angry at me. She complained to the CEO about how I was undeserving, and when I got employee of the month, she was irate. At this point, I was too busy to even try to respond to her efforts to get me fired. So she began to try to push my buttons by saying "Hi", instead of ignoring it I would say "Hello, darling, how are you this fine day". That was the final straw and she ended up quitting. I got employee of the year and she is trying to sue us
- —Guest Over it.
She needs to grow some
- I am fed up with the fact that our boss does not have a good set. She is so full of physical complexes, she is bitter and lacks leadership skills. What's worse, any of the under qualified immature idiots that go to her complaining will have her go to the person with real balls and write them up. Grow up, put make up on, buy new shoes for God's sake and grow a pair. You need to be a leader before you are a boss. You've been a boss for too long? Tired of your job? QUIT! Just don't throw your lack of skills on others to clean up when that's your job. If you are a boss, you have to lead!! Just quit and make my day.
- I've been working for over 30 years. I've encountered bullies, both in bosses and co-workers. Often, their mean-spirited comments weren't even work-related, just a means of stroking their own egos. Unfortunately, these individuals see humility, a consistently calm attitude and even cheerfulness as a sign of weakness. I went to a psychology seminar that described these types perfectly. It was said that "their levels of anxiety diminished as they saw others' rise." I can't tell you how often I've seen that. For me, there are only two solutions in dealing with narcissists: remain true to yourself, practice excellence in your work but make it clear when someone has overstepped the bounds of civility. Often, when you hold your ground and remain calm, the individual moves on to someone more easily rattled. When that gets you nowhere, move on! Life truly is too short. But make it clear why you're leaving. Eventually, the bully may get it, or his superiors will rectify the problem
- —Guest khaki
Buried In It
- I work with a lady who was hired as my assistant. She is the most negative person I have ever met. The heck of it is I love my job, I love the people I work with but I'm stuck with her in the same office 8+ hours a day with no escape. It goes on all day long from politics to how much others in the company make, to do or don't do. Everything I see states that maybe I should be the one to walk away to get out of the environment... Why should it be me??? It's not me with the negativity issue. The heck of it is, the lady is one hell of a worker! I never have to ask her to do anything she just does it, no prompting needed and 99.9% of the time flawlessly.
- —Guest vraws1
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