The plain truth
- Sometimes a team leader can be a bully, too, especially in a manufacturing setting. The blatant truth to it all is that bullies are everywhere, and they will never grow up. Whether they are in management or business owners, or team leaders or just fellow coworkers, they are out in the work place, and sometimes, you need to take legal action, too. You have to stand up to them or things will never change. That's the truth, and the way it really is.
- —Guest drspock55
- At my last job, I worked under different supervisors every day. I really liked this because, while I may not always be working for my favorite boss, I wasn't working for my least favorite all the time either. The worst boss was a newbie; he had worked there for at least three years, (awhile for this place), so I figured he knew what he was doing. Nope. I had a set amount of things that I was supposed to be doing. Although it wasn't a concrete plan, it was a good guide-line. He had me doing things that were other people's jobs. Or my personal favorite, "Hey, could you go do this? Oh wait! No, go do this other thing. Well...just keep doing what you were doing." Because I have to "switch gears" for different tasks, this really interfered with what I was doing. And left me a little confused. Another really bad quality in a boss is one that just says, "You are doing a bad job." If I'm doing a bad job, I need to know how to make it better, not just be told that it's bad!!
- —Guest Girlie
- I have worked for my boss for 13 years and she is so insane but does not know it herself. I am the only person who works for her small company. Last couple of years have been hideous. Her husband was made redundant and is now in my face and he gives me the creeps. She hates when customers praise me, is petty, takes credit for my ideas or work, never gives praise, creates problems that do not exist ,forgets everything and I have to remind her, changes her mind on a daily basis regarding company policy, and involves me in her personal problems. She told me every detail when her husband cheated on her and I was sorry for her. Now he is back in there and I am expected to respect him. The funny thing is I know they both hate me and hope I will just leave but I refuse to give up a job I love and give them the satisfaction, even though they make me feel sick. I have noticed that with some bosses, the harder their employee works, the better they are, the more their boss resents it. My boss is a vampire.
- Some bosses are too personal at work. I think that is what makes bad bosses. He/she might get angry and begin to shout at everyone because of his/her family personal problems.
- —Guest phuti
Secretly Manipulative BAD BOSS
- A bad boss is one who is manipulative, fearful, and inexperienced - who picks "favorites" to secretly carry out their personal gains. In other words, who runs the team like a mob boss. Case in point, I have a boss who favors the young beautiful girls and grooms them for promotions. Only girls who he has "interests" with and a few "brown" guys get treated fairly. The rest are treated like scab workers - toil away with limited resources, and rotated around as to confuse and divide us up. I personally was switched to a lesser role based on the fact that there was not enough work, only for a girl who is of the same East Indian background as my boss to be promoted into that same position. This boss surrounds himself with DUMB girls half his age (all of which he hits on as potential girl friends). With their ears to the ground, they listen and warn him of potential threats, while "tough" guys, my boss befriends, intimidate those whom he despises or finds threatening to his position.
- —Guest Test
Unethical, Narcissist, and Gossip
- I've been working in an academic office for going on 3 years as a temp with the promise of having a real position created for me mentioned once a quarter. My boss is an office manager who can get away with a great deal of unethical practices, which are usually requested of me. She has had me house sit for her without compensation, asked me to draft letters for students who need food stamps when the students are not eligible, and review and make notes on applications for positions I have applied for myself. She acts like a den mother in our department, expresses a sympathetic ear and with much skilled coercion, extracts the opinions and concerns out of individuals and staff, then broadcasts them to other faculty members and the department head under the guise that this information simply fell into her lap. She is the queen of saying one thing and doing another. Gossip and whispering speculations overrun the office and no one can talk directly to each other about the problems.
- —Guest strung-a-long temp
- Negative bosses are those people who always try to find his subordinate's defects, never goes for appreciation, always tries to demotivate. Those bosses are very harmful and dangerous especially when his salary is less than his subordinates. He will always plan to get them out of the office, highlighting only the defects of the subordinates to the top management I don't know how to handle those hypocrites. Please help to resolve this issue.
- —Guest Indranil Indu
What Makes a Bad Boss
- I am angry that I have been demoted from my job and I don't know what will happen next. All I can do is have a stronger Nichiren Shoshu Buddhist practice and not have any grudges and show them how the Lotus Sutra interpreted by Nichiren Shoshu (best English translation by Burton Waston) works. When the right time comes, a better job or opportunity will be there when I need it; meanwhile I am helping these people by living the Lotus Sutra and stopping my anger and resentment. You can find the Lotus Sutra on the internet or at your local bookstore it shows a better path to take in life. (Susan suggests that you also put some thought into why you were demoted. Are there other skills or practices that you could develop to avoid that in the future.)
- —Guest J
- I'm reporting to 3 lady bosses. The problem is that they keep demoralizing me and making me look like a fool. Even when I have zipped all the files, they complain that the size is too big and that their new notebook can't open it. Then, I was asked to re do them again into a smaller size by removing some of the potential details which are for past reference. The problem is they will always say, didn't I tell you before this and that? You didn't listen or write down what I said. To avoid confrontation, I will just act dumb, but this is very stressful. To make things worse, the employment contract is 3 months which will tick off any potential position available on the job market.
- —Guest dolce
- Thinking that a discipline matters giving it, for example, to engineers and nurses. Better treatment as oppossed to accountants, masons, and researchers. Showing biased decision making on the majority of cases that put other disliked members at the disadvantage.
- —Guest chepha
Insecure bosses are the worst
- I have had two really bad bosses. #1 was the son of a really wonderful man who, unfortunately, passed away. The son took over unprepared and lost 1/2 of the employees - most, like me, had been with the company a minimum of 10 years - ticked off our biggest customer, and eventually bankrupted the company - all in less than two years. Boss #2 was a very insecure woman. She ran the office like a prison and was so antiquated in her procedures that it really wasn't difficult to improve on them, but if you should try, she would get nasty. The final straw was when she told me to put an order out that had no SHIP TO info on it. I tried to contact the customer; she told me not to worry about it - when it was time to be shipped, I could get the info then. Later that day I tried to contact the customer again and she literally hung up the phone on me! The next day the owner came out and tore a strip off me for putting an incomplete order out - while she stood there and listened - I quit on the spot.
- —Guest Karen
My boss is difficult
- My boss is difficult and I find her intimadating. I just joined the company 2 months ago, and have been getting into the new works. She's an account director and I'm an executive, but she leads me directly with no managers in between and we work very closely together. Everytime I come to her to ask about something, instead of answering them directly, very often she would say things like"haven't I already told you about this before" (while honestly I can't really recall when she did) or things like, "Arent you supposed to know about these things and figure them out yourself". Very often she would give me that frustrated kind of tone or look like I'm retarded or something. Other times, when she says something, she would be like "get a note pad and write them down because I'm not gonna waste my time telling you this again." It undermines your self-confidence when your boss treats you like that. It makes it hard to work with her and has put a lot of stress on me because of that. Now I'm scared of her.
- —Guest MissyX
Not so bad
- I'm happy to report that I have had more good bosses than bad. I think employees want to be included, listened to, and feel their opinions are valued. When I started out, I wasn't a very good boss. I meant well, but I didn't communicate and I didn't trust my staff to do a good job. Over the years, I learned that a collaborative approach works best with most staff. They like to be involved in projects from planning to the final execution. By developing a more team-oriented approach, we have a great success rate. My own boss is a wonderful person--kind, highly intelligent, and always takes time to listen, give good advice, and even pray with me (yes, he is a minister). I have never been happier in a job. After 40 years of working, I've found the truth in the saying, "If you love what you do, you never work a day in your life".
- —Guest guest patricia
- I worked for a husband and wife team. The husband would dump a bunch of orders on each person, with minimal clarification, and disappear. Then his wife, who was highly unstable, would find out what he'd done and if she didn't approve she'd lay into that unfortunate employee and then harangue everyone else as if they'd just brought down the company. These bosses also hired their children, who weren't that interested in working there, but the bosses openly favored them. The worst is that they believe they could smooth over all this ill will by chatting us up (and taking the personal information they managed to glean from you to use against you later) and inviting certain people to socialize with them outside of work. God help you if you turned them down. Everyone was recruited to spy on each other, etc. It was the most tense, poisonous work environment I ever experienced.
- —Guest anonamouse
- It started on the very first day at work. I was eager to start and showed up on-time exactly as appointed. No boss. I met a co-worker who said: "Who are you?" It turned out my boss arrived late, had not told anyone about me, had no plans for my office space, had not ordered me a computer, and never introduced me to anyone. Day one he gave me some papers about what he wanted me to do, but left me standing like an idiot without any information about the workplace or who to talk to. Whenever I knocked on his door for a question (what else should I do?), he acted annoyed or sighed. I felt like he regretted employing me from day one. I tried not to make a big deal out of this, and acted happy and did my best. But he seemed unhappy with everything I did. I started to work overtime to compensate, but he didn't notice and didn't appear more content. After some months of this I was totally worn out, and slowed down to normal work hours. Then he started complaining about me... It was horrible.
- —Guest Mary