Look for the Reason for the Bad Behavior
- Make sure you are not dealing with a boss who is mentally ill. It can be hard to detect or interpret when you have no knowledge of the specific illness and how it presents. Narcissistic Personality Disorder, learn about it. Mental illness in bosses, is apparently quite common. I went through it all the time in the dark. The illness controls them and because of it, they try to control and use you. Very manipulative and abusive.
- —Guest Ken
Boss are always right..or not
- I've joined the company about 5 years ago. In 5 years, I've worked with several different managers and this current manager is the worst of all. She has mood swings almost every day, is like waiting for a tsunami or something. She loves yelling to people, even on the phone. I've worked for so long, but I never heard any praise or recognition for my effort. It's not that I'm asking for rewards, just some appreciation would be enough. Recently she loves to point out my mistakes, even the small ones. Keeps talking behind my back, spreads the gossip to other managers which is kinda inappropriate to do. She insists we follow the company's rules, but if she herself didn't follow them, then why blame us for doing what she did? She even brought her kid to play around in the office and the store, treating it like nursery and we were the nannies. By the way, when I read about the signs you should quit your job, I knew I had to leave this place. That's the only way I can find my peace back.
- —Guest Miss H
- The place I work has a toxic manager. She berates everyone, whines when she has to do something for herself and lies constantly. She refuses to take responsibility for any mistakes she makes, instead blames someone else. No one wants to work with her because she's lazy, and if someone asks her for help, she says it's not her job help them. The job I do is a busy one, but I get called lazy if I don't do her job for her. Needless to say, I'm the "laziest" person there because I refuse to do her job. Fortunately, my job keeps me in frequent contact with the owners so she can't treat me the same way she does other employees.
- —Guest I'm not your gopher
Really? Is this how you treat employees?
- This company was one of my dream jobs. I had tried to get in immediately after campus. That didn't happen, so eventually, I got in 2 years down the line. It's a horror movie! It's a family business, so the CEO is everything. They have NO HR system here, so when you're stressed, just deal with it. We put up with insults, constant yelling, threats, late salaries, deductions from pay with no reason, and a 'don't care' attitude. It's depressing to say the least. The hunt is definitely on for another job and I am going away soon!
- —Guest Going away soon
Picks favorites, gossips and talks down
- My boss is 30 and made friends with a 22 year old girl at work. He is gay so it's not sexual but the two of them sit in the office gossiping and laughing at the rest of us while we work ourselves sick. When we come in we can't sit for one minute without him wanting us out so they can go back to dishing about us. They both talk down to us like we are idiots and look at each other and laugh when we speak. Many of us call them the plastics from the movie mean girls. When we express concerns, he pretends patronizingly to care, then sabotages us by going to the program director.
- —Guest hatemyboss
Won the war
- I'd worked for this company for 10 years when they decided to get rid of my boss and hire the tyrant who is there now. He'd lost his job during a bank merger. He brought two of his former employees with him that also lost their jobs. He didn't like the fact that I knew more about the company and the department. So he slowly took away all of my leadership in the department. When I was on FMLA, he stripped me of my duties and gave me menial duties when I returned. During my next review, I was denied an increase because I didn't know he wanted me to perform my job differently. I overheard his co-workers saying, "When he wants to get rid of someone, he picks at them until they quit." One month before my wedding, he eliminated my position, terminating my employment from the company after 14 years of service. Because he couldn't fire me for cause, he had to pay me severance, one week for each year of service. I am much happier in my current position. That experience made me appreciate life.
- —Guest patiently waited
Managing through intimidation; bullying
- My boss has, through the last couple of years, become more and more intimidating. She has begun to use comments such as, "Don't you remember?" or "I've told you that several times." It has, at times, caused me to doubt my memory and job performance. I am at my wit's end on how to handle this. The union representative states that she cannot help unless she is a witness! Well, that's not going to happen, my boss may be a bully, but she's not stupid.
A boss who thinks I am a mind reader
- I have a boss who doesn't tell you what is expected out of you and expects you to perform.
- —Guest cookie
Good or bad boss
- Bosses are good when they exactly know their authority and responsibility and use it in a positive way, when they are able to communicate well, and bad when they are confused.
- —Guest neha
- I actually chose to work with my current boss because I thought she would be inspiring to work with. Oh dear, was my assessment wrong. On day one of my new job she yelled at me in the middle of an open plan office for not delivering (it was 11 in the morning and the office had opened at 9). She also told me that sometimes when she spoke to me she found 'my face disappointing'. She also attempted to humiliate me in public (making her peers and colleagues feel very uncomfortable and ask if I needed support in managing her). I took the high road; told her I quit in the middle of one of her rants; and high tailed out of there. She still glares at me when she sees me in the hallway. I was completely blindsided by her, but I am so glad I no longer have to 'work' (read act like her servant) with her.
- —Guest enoughalready
Left a Loser
- I worked for a company for 24 years and was fairly content, until I got a new boss. She was/is the devil's spawn. She was absolutely evil, but she was a golden girl, and was in the position to stay. For three years I suffered under her, but during that time I scrimped and saved every penny, paid off my house and any/all consumer debt. When I was finally in a good financial place, I began looking for something better. Amazingly, I found a great job with a terrific boss, and I'm making more money and I have less stress. I am so blessed. But my advice, try to do what you can to cope, pay off your debt and get the heck away from the ugly situation you're in as soon as you can. You may find a better opportunity. Good Luck!
- —Guest gonegirl
I look better when you look bad
- In hospitality jobs, of course, when you're dealing with the public, it's anybody's guess as to what you'll get. My boss berates me for expressing any sort of negative opinion about customers, then when I say nothing, cuts my hours for having a "bad attitude." She'll walk in when it's busy, grab orders at random, and scream at me in front of customers for trying to tell her which table the orders go to, then scream because she's taken it to the wrong table. She constantly has temper tantrums and has provoked other employees into quitting and reduced others to tears. I am actively seeking other employment and can't wait to be out of there.
- —Guest had enough
- My boss was a stupid f...aged lovelace. His last hired person turned out to be his passion, who behaved awfully feeling a support man! She could simply ignore any assigned work or not come at work at all. Our HR department couldn't do anything with this. At the end of the project, he reduced all except her. Luckily he resigned and that was his last working experience.
- —Guest Mara
Doesn't care, plain and simple
- I have a boss who is an attorney. Need I say more?? His ego is bigger than anything and he makes it known how smart he is (to me). As his legal assistant, he makes little time for me and expects me to be a mind reader. Yet, when something isn't done correctly I'm at fault. He doesn't even have the balls to tell me when he has a concern with my work, etc. but gets the firm administrator to tell me about things that are wrong and she's a major gossip so I'm sure everyone at the firm knows about it. He's in and out of the office, doesn't tell me anything, including going on vacation. Whenever, I ask him a question, he never has time or expects me to know the answer -- now why would I go to him? Duh! I'm totally invisible in his eyes! He doesn't give a shit about me, it's obvious. I've been working for him 2-1/2 years and probably one of the longest working for him. When the time is right, I'm going to be moving along. Soon to say see ya!
- —Guest Michelle
Super failed boss
- Sometimes you just can't work with a boss that doesn't speak human language at all, that's just sad. She's a traditional chinese-minded lady of 30, and likes to enforce military-like discipline on all of her employees. You know what I mean: one-sided decisions, not allowed to argue, challenge or to provide suggestions with her because she'll never listen and eventually you're just wasting your time. Yelling, rude, impolite, sarcastic and even sometimes insults and threatens her employees! After reading your post, I've finally decided to leave her team soon as this is just not a healthy working environment for me.
- —Guest Bird view seer