Believing they are the chosen one
- Along my career I've known many bosses acting like as if they're above you in the corporate ladder, they're automatically certified in every subject, including not only your own specialty, but also psychology, human behavior, judgment of attitudes, ethics, etc. Few options other than quitting...
- —Guest Sergio
Win the world war four in office
- I left one company where I was working after seven years to join another company for other projects. Of course it has got a big name, etc. But what happened in my initially three months of probation about to end in the last week. I came to know from my boss that they are going to terminate me because I am not moving to site to look after the work which makes me so sad that I was doing every day work and not recognized and my output is not going to them. Later they gave me another chance and stating that I am not medically fit for that role. Hence if performance was not improved in the upcoming month, they will fire me. I was about to reach at ceiling level when I heard this from my boss but I performed well in that month and gain little trust of idiots and change my situation and move along with system.
- —Guest georage
It happens a lot
- In my experience, there are so many bad bosses that using them as job references is a joke. There really should be a law that future employers can only call human resources for references. There is so much lying going on out there.
- —Guest toomany
Doesn't seem fair
- Bad bosses are encouraged. You can report them to HR and nothing gets done. In fact if anything, you become a target. I don't understand how this is legal to treat people this way? To be demeaning, berated in front of your peers and just treated so unfairly. Especially when you're a good employee? Never written up or any disciplinary action at all, and now, because someone is a prick I have to find a new job? Where are our rights as employees?
- —Guest jewel
You Will Express No Response or Emotion!
- My bosses ganged up on me in an email stating how they were tired of hearing me sigh and express feelings. They said they felt relief when I wasn't present. And they lied about my being out of the office without telling anyone where I was. This came in the middle of a big project where I had worked 9-10 hour days (plus two weekend days) for two weeks. No thank you! I left after getting the email and never went back. I have never felt more relief than when I was finally freed from that cold, never satsfied, unkind and fake office!
- —Guest Lori
- My boss and her tag along husband don't have a clue as to how to run a school. They are so bad with people that they make teachers cry. He is always screaming and abusive. She passes ugly comments in this baby voice. It hurts to wake up and go to work feeling this demotivated and drained. I get nervous before I even leave for work. I get there and it's very uncomfortable. I try avoid their comments and keep being kind and respectful. But I'm not happy at how they can run a play group so unmorally.
- —Guest Guest Teacher
- My boss is a sadist. He likes to take credit for the work he had not done. I am working on a product, my boss and another guy had been working on for 18 months. Unfortunately, I had to work with him as he is expert in the domain and I am the software guy to make the software happen. The product was bang on within 11 months of my start on this product. My MD was able to proudly show the product to our guests ( almost all ), in the mean time my BOSS overloaded me with another 4 month, project. I did complete 70% of it in 1 month. My Boss's plan was to take it over from me and put his name on the work. My BOSS was reluctant to increase the deadline for me on the previous project I was working earlier. I did send an email to my MD about this issue and my BOSS was belittled. I am keeping my BOSS on check. currently I am facing one last problem with my BOSS, he asks for status aysnchronously, as he sits behind me, which annoys me. Hope to get over this soon.
- —Guest BB
- I love children, and found my dream job, only to find my dream job turned into a nightmare. The first week my boss and her husband appeared to be very moral and stable. They opened a play group and run it from their home. After the second week, I was shocked to the bone to see how my boss lies to the parents. Changing the facts around to suit her. I was then shouted at because, when asked by the parents how their children did through out the day, I told them why and how the child got his or her bruise. Turns out they have no insurance and I could mess it all up for them. However, I was screamed at again, this time for answering a parent's question about whether his child arrived with Mosquito bites on his face (which he didn't); playing in the classroom a few hours later they appeared. My boss called me into a tiny room with her husband and he shouted in my face for ten minutes. He actually spat on my face. Putting up his hand to shut me down.They clearly have no clue how to deal with people.
- —Guest Guest - Nursery School Teacher
Look for the Reason for the Bad Behavior
- Make sure you are not dealing with a boss who is mentally ill. It can be hard to detect or interpret when you have no knowledge of the specific illness and how it presents. Narcissistic Personality Disorder, learn about it. Mental illness in bosses, is apparently quite common. I went through it all the time in the dark. The illness controls them and because of it, they try to control and use you. Very manipulative and abusive.
- —Guest Ken
Boss are always right..or not
- I've joined the company about 5 years ago. In 5 years, I've worked with several different managers and this current manager is the worst of all. She has mood swings almost every day, is like waiting for a tsunami or something. She loves yelling to people, even on the phone. I've worked for so long, but I never heard any praise or recognition for my effort. It's not that I'm asking for rewards, just some appreciation would be enough. Recently she loves to point out my mistakes, even the small ones. Keeps talking behind my back, spreads the gossip to other managers which is kinda inappropriate to do. She insists we follow the company's rules, but if she herself didn't follow them, then why blame us for doing what she did? She even brought her kid to play around in the office and the store, treating it like nursery and we were the nannies. By the way, when I read about the signs you should quit your job, I knew I had to leave this place. That's the only way I can find my peace back.
- —Guest Miss H
- The place I work has a toxic manager. She berates everyone, whines when she has to do something for herself and lies constantly. She refuses to take responsibility for any mistakes she makes, instead blames someone else. No one wants to work with her because she's lazy, and if someone asks her for help, she says it's not her job help them. The job I do is a busy one, but I get called lazy if I don't do her job for her. Needless to say, I'm the "laziest" person there because I refuse to do her job. Fortunately, my job keeps me in frequent contact with the owners so she can't treat me the same way she does other employees.
- —Guest I'm not your gopher
Really? Is this how you treat employees?
- This company was one of my dream jobs. I had tried to get in immediately after campus. That didn't happen, so eventually, I got in 2 years down the line. It's a horror movie! It's a family business, so the CEO is everything. They have NO HR system here, so when you're stressed, just deal with it. We put up with insults, constant yelling, threats, late salaries, deductions from pay with no reason, and a 'don't care' attitude. It's depressing to say the least. The hunt is definitely on for another job and I am going away soon!
- —Guest Going away soon
Picks favorites, gossips and talks down
- My boss is 30 and made friends with a 22 year old girl at work. He is gay so it's not sexual but the two of them sit in the office gossiping and laughing at the rest of us while we work ourselves sick. When we come in we can't sit for one minute without him wanting us out so they can go back to dishing about us. They both talk down to us like we are idiots and look at each other and laugh when we speak. Many of us call them the plastics from the movie mean girls. When we express concerns, he pretends patronizingly to care, then sabotages us by going to the program director.
- —Guest hatemyboss
Won the war
- I'd worked for this company for 10 years when they decided to get rid of my boss and hire the tyrant who is there now. He'd lost his job during a bank merger. He brought two of his former employees with him that also lost their jobs. He didn't like the fact that I knew more about the company and the department. So he slowly took away all of my leadership in the department. When I was on FMLA, he stripped me of my duties and gave me menial duties when I returned. During my next review, I was denied an increase because I didn't know he wanted me to perform my job differently. I overheard his co-workers saying, "When he wants to get rid of someone, he picks at them until they quit." One month before my wedding, he eliminated my position, terminating my employment from the company after 14 years of service. Because he couldn't fire me for cause, he had to pay me severance, one week for each year of service. I am much happier in my current position. That experience made me appreciate life.
- —Guest patiently waited
Managing through intimidation; bullying
- My boss has, through the last couple of years, become more and more intimidating. She has begun to use comments such as, "Don't you remember?" or "I've told you that several times." It has, at times, caused me to doubt my memory and job performance. I am at my wit's end on how to handle this. The union representative states that she cannot help unless she is a witness! Well, that's not going to happen, my boss may be a bully, but she's not stupid.