- Sometimes the relationship is so toxic that the best thing to do is get away. Easier said than done but the relief after your escape is incredible.
Silly, Insecure, Boss
- My boss is much younger than I. I'm 42, she's 25. I usually don't have a problem with young people who hold positions of authority; however this lady is so interested in fitting in with the click of the office that I caught her gossiping about me to my coworkers! The very same people she talked about me to, were the same people who came back and reported to me what she said! Yes, the office is full of young people, so this is a fairly frequent occurrence, but one I was not expecting from my supervisor! (Susan says, it sounds like she has a lot to learn about being a supervisor.)
- —Guest Tired42
Harsh boss doctor
- I've been working with the same company and same boss doctor in a medical field as an MOA. My days of assisting patients are very good and excellent. I always get from patients that I did a great job of helping them and sometimes also from my boss too who sometimes appreciates what I've done for his business company. Anyway, we have this one staff who is always a suck up. All these years I always thought that I can call her a good friend of mine but later found out she spread gossip to other staff saying words that I didn't even say. She made all the staff believe her and boy, she is so good at it... What a liar and two faced evil she is up to and now she is still there working for him. So who cares anyways? The bad thing is whenever she does a bad side evil thing to other staff, I always confronted her and asked her to her face, why she did that. Later on, she would go to the boss and cry and say I was the bad one causing the drama in the office when I swear I didn't say anything.
- —Guest westtodownside
Wife was a psycho
- Worked in healthcare field for 30 years. Last job was working for a professional whose wife was office manager. A door fell off of a cabinet and hit me in the nose. It hurt, but I knew it wasn't broken. She MADE me go to have an x-ray done. While I was gone, she picked up the cabinet door and HIT herself in the nose with it to see if the door was heavy enough to do any damage. She was so afraid that I would sue them. She was money hungry, vindictive, and lied to patients. I worked for them 2 days a week and in another office 2 days a week. She wanted me to take off a day from my other office to work in place of the lady who was supposed to be working. When I said, "No," she became very vindictive and threatened to go to my second boss and confront him for "stealing me away from them" even though I had told her from the beginning that I couldn't make it on the 2 days they offered me. So I confronted her and asked her if she would like for me to do that to them. I gave my notice that day.
- I currently work under 2 make chauvinists. It drives me nuts because I have such a free spirit. My direct manager is Muslim and he openly talks about how women have too much freedom. I always feel like he is talking down to me. The GM loves to lecture us and makes me feel dumb, when really I am very experienced at my job. I know what I'm doing and have been doing it for 5 years, yet he treats me like I'm stupid because I didn't start in his restaurant. 2 weeks notice is in!
- —Guest serverfor5years
The Smoking Evil Boss
- The very first time I entered her room, I sensed that she has this bad attitude for she smokes in her room. Not only that, but it's prohibited in the city. Not all of our co-workers can survive the smoke including myself because I am not a smoker myself. She takes advantage of me since I am young and single. It was also the time when I was fresh from breaking up with my ex-sweetheart. She would yell at me whenever there were visitors. And even if I'm doing the right things, she would still find ways to tell me that I'm wrong. One time, I avoided a guy for consistently staring at me. She sided with the rude guy and put the blame on me instead. She continued yelling at me whenever there are visitors. People avoided me. Our messenger became disgustingly rude to me. I felt harassed. I've had skin diseases because of it. It keeps coming back. I finished my employment contract with the company. My boss didn't renew it. And she would still embarass me until the last days. That's how evil she is.
- —Guest The Musical Lady
- My nephew told me his boss at the restaurant was stealing the overtime pay from all the workers on his job. I told him that if he did not confront his manager about this, I would come to the restaurant myself and do it. I would have called the police on this manager, and I meant it big time. I am not afraid of anybody or anything. I am an ex-MARINE, AND THAT SAYS IT ALL. Nobody has the right to be a boss and take people's overtime money. They earned their money and should get it honestly. I was so pissed off that I never forgave this manager, and my nephew quit that damn job. He is now in manufacturing. Reckless in Indiana! Crazy times that we live in now a days ya all.
- —Guest drspock55
The plain truth
- Sometimes a team leader can be a bully, too, especially in a manufacturing setting. The blatant truth to it all is that bullies are everywhere, and they will never grow up. Whether they are in management or business owners, or team leaders or just fellow coworkers, they are out in the work place, and sometimes, you need to take legal action, too. You have to stand up to them or things will never change. That's the truth, and the way it really is.
- —Guest drspock55
- At my last job, I worked under different supervisors every day. I really liked this because, while I may not always be working for my favorite boss, I wasn't working for my least favorite all the time either. The worst boss was a newbie; he had worked there for at least three years, (awhile for this place), so I figured he knew what he was doing. Nope. I had a set amount of things that I was supposed to be doing. Although it wasn't a concrete plan, it was a good guide-line. He had me doing things that were other people's jobs. Or my personal favorite, "Hey, could you go do this? Oh wait! No, go do this other thing. Well...just keep doing what you were doing." Because I have to "switch gears" for different tasks, this really interfered with what I was doing. And left me a little confused. Another really bad quality in a boss is one that just says, "You are doing a bad job." If I'm doing a bad job, I need to know how to make it better, not just be told that it's bad!!
- —Guest Girlie
- I have worked for my boss for 13 years and she is so insane but does not know it herself. I am the only person who works for her small company. Last couple of years have been hideous. Her husband was made redundant and is now in my face and he gives me the creeps. She hates when customers praise me, is petty, takes credit for my ideas or work, never gives praise, creates problems that do not exist ,forgets everything and I have to remind her, changes her mind on a daily basis regarding company policy, and involves me in her personal problems. She told me every detail when her husband cheated on her and I was sorry for her. Now he is back in there and I am expected to respect him. The funny thing is I know they both hate me and hope I will just leave but I refuse to give up a job I love and give them the satisfaction, even though they make me feel sick. I have noticed that with some bosses, the harder their employee works, the better they are, the more their boss resents it. My boss is a vampire.
- Some bosses are too personal at work. I think that is what makes bad bosses. He/she might get angry and begin to shout at everyone because of his/her family personal problems.
- —Guest phuti
Secretly Manipulative BAD BOSS
- A bad boss is one who is manipulative, fearful, and inexperienced - who picks "favorites" to secretly carry out their personal gains. In other words, who runs the team like a mob boss. Case in point, I have a boss who favors the young beautiful girls and grooms them for promotions. Only girls who he has "interests" with and a few "brown" guys get treated fairly. The rest are treated like scab workers - toil away with limited resources, and rotated around as to confuse and divide us up. I personally was switched to a lesser role based on the fact that there was not enough work, only for a girl who is of the same East Indian background as my boss to be promoted into that same position. This boss surrounds himself with DUMB girls half his age (all of which he hits on as potential girl friends). With their ears to the ground, they listen and warn him of potential threats, while "tough" guys, my boss befriends, intimidate those whom he despises or finds threatening to his position.
- —Guest Test
Unethical, Narcissist, and Gossip
- I've been working in an academic office for going on 3 years as a temp with the promise of having a real position created for me mentioned once a quarter. My boss is an office manager who can get away with a great deal of unethical practices, which are usually requested of me. She has had me house sit for her without compensation, asked me to draft letters for students who need food stamps when the students are not eligible, and review and make notes on applications for positions I have applied for myself. She acts like a den mother in our department, expresses a sympathetic ear and with much skilled coercion, extracts the opinions and concerns out of individuals and staff, then broadcasts them to other faculty members and the department head under the guise that this information simply fell into her lap. She is the queen of saying one thing and doing another. Gossip and whispering speculations overrun the office and no one can talk directly to each other about the problems.
- —Guest strung-a-long temp
- Negative bosses are those people who always try to find his subordinate's defects, never goes for appreciation, always tries to demotivate. Those bosses are very harmful and dangerous especially when his salary is less than his subordinates. He will always plan to get them out of the office, highlighting only the defects of the subordinates to the top management I don't know how to handle those hypocrites. Please help to resolve this issue.
- —Guest Indranil Indu
What Makes a Bad Boss
- I am angry that I have been demoted from my job and I don't know what will happen next. All I can do is have a stronger Nichiren Shoshu Buddhist practice and not have any grudges and show them how the Lotus Sutra interpreted by Nichiren Shoshu (best English translation by Burton Waston) works. When the right time comes, a better job or opportunity will be there when I need it; meanwhile I am helping these people by living the Lotus Sutra and stopping my anger and resentment. You can find the Lotus Sutra on the internet or at your local bookstore it shows a better path to take in life. (Susan suggests that you also put some thought into why you were demoted. Are there other skills or practices that you could develop to avoid that in the future.)
- —Guest J